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[轉載] 十大不合情理的思想

認知心理學家相信,我們思想中的一些非理性觀念,是導致情緒問題的根本原因。世上的不幸遭遇為何讓人喪魂落魄茶飯不思呢?不是因為遭遇本身,而是因為我們自己的思想習慣和固有觀念。

比方說,朋友向自己借了東西不還,若帶著「我當初就不應該借」、「真是知人口面不知心」之類的想法就難免會很不高興,相反,帶著「錢財是身外之物」、「借了就沒有想過會還」的想法就會讓自己輕鬆很多。

有沒有一些常見的思想誤區呢?答案是肯定的。這裡,列出十大最為普遍的不合情理的思想習慣,請讀者們看一看,想一想,其中哪些與自己平日的想法有相同之處。

1. 一個人絕對要獲得周圍、尤其是生活中每位重要人物的喜愛和讚揚。
2. 一個人的價值在於他是否在人生的每個方面都有成就,不能失敗。
3. 世界上有些人十分邪惡可憎,他們沒有絲毫優點,應該受到譴責和懲罰。
4. 如果事情的發展不如自己所願,那將是可怕而災難性的情況。
5. 不愉快是由外界事物所引起的,不是自己所可以支配或控制的。
6. 一個人應該對危險或可怕的事情時時關心處處提防,並不斷的考慮這些事。
7. 面對現實中的困難或自我承擔責任實在不容易,倒不如逃避它們。
8. 人需要依賴別人,特別是需要依賴那些比自己更強更有力的人,唯有如此,生活才能好過一些。
9. 一個人目前的行為,是被以往的經歷和事件決定了的,不是自己可以改變的。
10. 人生中的每一個問題都會有一個正確的答案,如果找不到這個答案,就會痛苦一生。

「合理情緒療法」就是針對這些不合情理的思想習慣而發展出來的一種心理治療,通過邏輯思辯,使情緒得到改善。

http://www.drktchan.com/diseseas_theroy_01.html

10 unreasonable beliefs that are common in depressed people

Albert Ellis specifies the following 10 examples of unreasonable beliefs that are common in depressed people:

  • I must be liked or accepted by every person in my life, for almost everything I do.
  • I must be successful, skilled and achieve lots in everything I do if I'm to consider myself worthwhile.
  • It is awful and terrible when things are not the way I would like them to be. Things should be different.
  • I must feel anxious, upset and need to get away if something is or may be, dangerous.
  • Human sadness is caused by something beyond our control so people have little or no ability to control their negative feelings.
  • It is easier to avoid facing many of life's difficulties and responsibilities than to face them.
  • The past is all important, so if something once strongly affected my life, it cannot be changed.
  • When people act badly or unfairly, I blame them and view them as completely bad or pathetic, including myself.
  • Maximum happiness can be achieved by not doing anything, or by passively enjoying oneself.
  • Everyone should be dependent on others and I need someone stronger than myself on whom I can rely.
http://www.glasgowsteps.com/self-help/depression/beliefs.php
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