基督教, 女朋友, love

劈柴

我女朋友係成家都信基督教...由細信到大個隻...其實剛開始拍拖時都覺得我可以克服佢/佢屋企人會叫我返教會既問題...而事實亦如此...佢已經唔會再要求我參與佢教會既活動...係間唔中佢屋企人依然會叫下我返教會/聽seminar...我亦可以容易宛拒之...但問題係我開始頂唔順佢個種完全唔嘗試去用腦去分析&解決問題既性格...次次想話教吓佢用比較科學既方法去解決問題...佢唔係冇心機聽...就係聽唔明...或者跟本覺得自己既思考模式已經很有邏輯...有時真係覺得同佢溝通唔到(當然我都明白其實佢都係咁諗)...
but i love her too much to break up with her...又唔敢直接同佢講個問題...驚佢又唔開心...唯有見步行步吧...
唉...真係幼稚...

劈柴

哈哈...冇諗過生仔...

的確...科唔學科學唔係好重要...畢竟那只是解決問題的其中一種方法...但係唔用腦去思考就係另一件事...唔懂得自己去思考解決問題...我總不能無時無刻都响佢身邊幫佢解決問題吧...

劈柴

"調教自己的頻道"...that"s what i am doing now...
但係對住同自己最close既人...都唔可以暢所欲言...好無癮...

劈柴

這個我一定唔會妥協...(如果真係唔小心有左細路先算啦~)
我是最反對帶細路仔/女返教會既...

劈柴

其實我都唔係想佢完全理性...始終信唔信係佢既自由...而且既然一開始就知道佢係基督徒...當初同佢拍拖亦冇諗過要以帶佢離開教會為前題...咁其實佢信唔信我都唔係好concern...當然如果大家有多一個common ground...溝通就會舒服D啦...
至於忍唔忍到...老實講...同佢一齊都幾年...自問我既religious tolerance都高左好多...如果忍唔到就一早唔忍啦...

劈柴

花姨...好耐冇見...

我都知道佢離唔離教其實影響唔大...所以由始至終都冇諗過要咁做...

咁我又冇個blog既主人咁慘...至少我地既興趣、嗜好都一樣...最多都係價款同信仰有D出入姐...about this, i am lucky...

劈柴

唔介意~
反正你所講既都係我其中一個要考慮既問題...
而且...我唔係覺得佢依賴我有壓力...只不過我唔認為我可以and/or應該所有問題都幫佢解決...
再者...要佢懂得解決問題都係為佢好...
至於結婚或更長遠既問題...其實我都好有信心我地可以compromise...不過睇黎都要搵日同佢坐低傾下...

劈柴

同意...所以我地平時都唔會因為信仰等問題而唔開心...通常都係因為一齊見佢D friend之後佢先會黑口黑面...

劈柴

咁呢個我都知...

劈柴

i don't think the churches in vancouver mind marrying anyone no matter believer or not...only not gay couples...

劈柴

抱歉...總覺得談這個話題時用粤語比較輕鬆...

我不是想拉她離教...不然我不會到這裡談...已經去做了...

“当你想改变一个人的时候，那你爱的，就再也不是当初那个你喜欢的人了”
同意...但不表示兩個人一起之後就可以放自己的缺點不管...然後說自己的另一半不能容納自己...

劈柴

"compromise之功能,遠超未婚者所理解.除非閣下已曾對婚姻盡責."

但係未結婚又唔知work唔work...結左婚先知唔work又唔想/唔可以行番轉頭...你所講果位網友都係面對過&仲面對緊呢種矛盾吧...

劈柴

"佢開頭咪一樣想拖你入教"
唔係喎...佢識我好耐...而且我以前仲反耶過宜家...佢好清楚冇可能拖到我入教...所以呢個從來都唔係問題既一部份...

"佢唔用腦.你用腦唔係有好多野容易解決咩"
這個嘛...唔知點解我唔多覺...

劈柴

trust me....it won't work for her...me going to church? over my dead body...actually i will make sure even after i die...no one can take my body into any church....

劈柴

thanks for the suggestion.