dye

"1. 您係咪想結婚
2. 佢係咪您結婚嘅唯一option?
3.佢係咪您結婚嘅best option?"

If you answer yes in (2), it can be concluded that you will answer yes in (3).  An only option is always the "best" option since you have no other choice.

The missing part of the question is degree.  For example, how "urgent" are you in getting married?  But 沙文 has already included the consideration in other part of the post.

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For Step.King.,

The question is ask in a subjective way.  It is asking what "you" believe/think, it is not about the reality.  Falling in love is about living in a distorted reality where you "think" she is special when she is not.

沙文 is correct in the sense that the value of a "product" rest mostly on the consumer's mind, not the feature of the product.  

I suppose an analogy can be made with sports car for men, and handbag for women.  Even if you can't drive 200/km with a Porche in HK, it is valued by men; even if a LV handbag is only as durable as any other handbag, it is valued by women.
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What I find strange is that 沙文 assume the sender CAN remain rational about his choice.  Love is chemical working in the brain, it disrupts and distorts the brain's working.  I think 沙文 would know it first hand as he looks back at his choice over his lover(s).  What is he thinking back then (if he is still thinking)?

dye

In short, when you fall in love, the girl being stupid/silly is not a problem, and may even be a positive features.  When you are no longer in love, it becomes an intolerable problem.

When your hearts on fire, you must realize, smoke gets in your eyes.

My advice in the situation is much simpler, look at her in her eyes, can you feel the love surging through your veins?  Including but not exhaustive: pounding heart, sweating palms, tunnel vision?  If so, give the marriage a shot.  

For men: 人生有多少個十年？最緊要痛快。
For women: 珍惜眼前人

If you still need a reason to marry her, please don't.  My advice is: Love needs no reason, only hate does.

dye

回覆 9# 沙文

You are correct.  Of course, you are always correct.

dye

回覆 11# 沙文

Don't worry, I take great pleasure in being corrected.  I think this is what good friends are for (to correct each other).

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