dye

I wonder:

What if you 'traded' your conscience for love, and decided that what you get is not what you desire?  (You are only trying to conquer?)

Or the love you traded in is fake? (That she is tricking you into it)

Or that the love did not last very long (but you will leave your conscience with a scar, like many folks here do after quiting Christianity?)

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BUT, consider lyrics in Smoke Gets in Your Eyes

They asked me how I knew
My true love was true
I of course replied
Something here inside
Can not be denied

They, said some day you'll find
All who love are blind
When you heart's on fire
You must realize
Smoke gets in your eyes

So I chaffed them, and I gaily laughed
To think they would doubt our love
And yet today, my love has gone away
I am without my love

Now laughing friends deride
Tears I cannot hide
So I smile and say
When a lovely flame dies
Smoke gets in your eyes

Smoke gets in your eyes

[ 本帖最後由 dye 於 2008-4-19 20:48 編輯 ]

dye

When a person give up something in order to gain something else, it is the esense of trading.  It does not have to be monetary.  (Money is only a tool)

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Trying seeing it from her perspective,

The choice as seen by her will look something like below:  Considering the fact that losing love is a minor pain while going to hell is eternal..

a) If you change, she may get her love and you go to heaven.  
b) If she change, she may get her love but you both go to hell
c) If neither change, she lost her love and you go to hell.  
d) If neither change, she may get her love and you go to hell.  (Possible choice?)

For people whose only concern is your well being, they will choose
a) as it is the only one where YOU will have a happy ending.  

d) should be the second choice if she is selfish because you will meet a dead end while she get what she want (while living).  However, it is forbidden.

c) Is the third choice because at least one person will have a happy ending

b) is the worst choice as both be in hell

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Now consider how it may be view from you.  Priority vary depending on the value of the conscience

a) If you change, you may get your love and you lost your conscience.  
b) If she change, you may get your love but you both keep your conscience
c) If neither change, you lose your love and you keep your conscience.  
d) If neither change, you may get your love and you keep your conscience.  (Possible choice?)

I wonder if you have consider her well being, that she can re-gain her conscience if you can influence her to pick b)?  You put such a high value on your 'freedom', your 'value', what about her?  Did you consider rescuing her from Christianity (like Step. King)?

[ 本帖最後由 dye 於 2008-4-21 15:37 編輯 ]

dye

Too bad this forum does not support making a chart:

Choice, perspective (onlyaaaa/girlfriend)

a) onlyaaaa change to Christian
- onlyaaaa lost conscience/go to heaven
- girlfriend lost conscience/go to heaven
- love

b) girl change ex-christian
- onlyaaaa keep conscience/go to hell
- girlfriend gain conscience/go to hell
- love

c) do nothing (breakup)
- onlyaaaa keep conscience/go to hell
- girlfriend lost conscience/go to heaven
- no love

d) do nothing (compromise)
- onlyaaaa keep conscience/go to hell
- girlfriend lost conscience/go to heaven
- love

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a) is the best choice if girlfriend is right.
b) is the best choice if onlyaaaa is right
c)  is a neutral choice representing zero point, as if you never knew each other
d) is the best choice if both have a 50-50% of being right